10 Day Smoothie Cleanse: Day 6

I COMPLETED 5 DAYS OF THE CHALLENGE. THAT MEANS WE ARE HALF. WAY. THROUGH!!!!!! I am so proud of myself and my cousin! We’ve been very good on this challenge, especially through all of the temptations at her house!! Last night, she said lost an inch on her waist which is great! I also measured myself and lost about half an inch.. but I have to account for my  recent bloating.

Saturday, June 15th, 2019

This morning, I weighed myself. I was 118.4lb, just the same as I was when I measured myself on Day 2. I’m kind of surprised at my ZERO weight change since the second day. Is it because I’ve been backed up? Or is this challenge not helping..? My clothes aren’t as snug as usual, but that’s probably because I lost some butt. My thick arms look about the same as when I first started… And my stomach looks about the same as when I first started, although my measurement yesterday said I lost half an inch. I tried to the Saltwater Flush again, but on an empty stomach this time. I waited about an hour before drinking my smoothie. I didn’t get great sleep last night because I had trouble falling asleep, and I also woke up at 2:49am thinking it was 6am and that I needed to go to work!! Relieved after checking my phone, I went back to bed and ended up tossing and turning anyways. I woke up at 6am again and although I tried to sleep in a bit, my mind was already awake. I’m mentally awake but my body still feels kind of groggy.

So far –

Pros:

  • Lost some circumference on my waist
  • Gained A LOT of energy
  • Lost brain fog
  • Skin looks a lot better, clearer, and my pores have shrunk

Cons:

  • Did not lose any weight
  • Constipated
  • Bloated
  • Cravings!!!!!!!!
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10 Day Smoothie Cleanse: Days 4 & 5

Thursday, June 13th, 2019

I’m writing this late because I do not carry my laptop with me around everywhere and I don’t necessarily like being on it when I don’t need to so I don’t really care to carry it around. Anyways – this morning, I had work at 7am. I have to admit that Day 4 drinking just spinach, spring mix, and a whole bunch of fruit have brought me back to life. I woke up on 6 hours of sleep with no problem at all. I put on my clothes and some make up, realizing that some of the small bumps that usually appear on my cheeks under my make up had vanish and the make up on my skin looked like a smooth finish. My cheeks had lost some chubbiness because when I smiled, it really showed. Usually when my face is chubby and bloated, it takes away from how big my smile really could be. In the mirror, my under eye bags had diminished a bit, my skin was smooth, and my vision felt clear. During work, I only got tired once during my 7.5 hour shift. The rest was easy and I had ZERO brain fog! After work, I didn’t even feel like taking a nap. My energy levels were so much better than before.

 

Friday, June 14th, 2019

This morning, my boyfriend’s alarm woke me up. He left for work a bit past 6am, but once I woke up, I knew I didn’t want to go back to sleep (which is CRAZY because I usually go back to sleep once I wake up). The energy I acquired from this diet is unbelievable! However, I went back to sleep anyways just out of habit. I let myself sleep until 9:30-10am. This particular smoothie, I did not like because it had a whole bunch of berries in it, meaning lots of seeds…. bleh.. Getting ready, I noticed that my butt lost some size, yet my belly looked very bloated. I’ve been constipated for several days now and I have a feeling it’s the fiber from the flax seeds. I know that fiber is supposed to make you go use the restroom, but it has done quite the opposite from my experience. I should probably take the flax seed out. Being bloated and constipated has been bothering me. It’s generally normal for me to get constipated so I’m not too worried. It’ll come out soon. But I’m annoyed that I’ve been on this diet for 5 days and it’s giving me bloating and constipation along with a decreased butt size. I even took a bit of a laxative last night, but no luck???? So weird. In the evening, I couldn’t help but look at food on the internet, planning for my next meal. I was so hungry that I even contemplated on having a cheat day during the cleanse, but my cousin and boyfriend talked me out of it. After having a bit of a snack – tuna and hardboiled egg – my cravings for Chicago styled deep dish pizza diminished and I felt better about completing the challenge. For my constipation, I checked out a page in the book that provided two different methods to help this issue: (1) The Saltwater Flush and (2) Mag07 Pill Capsules. I did not want to go out to buy these $40 pills. Although the Saltwater Flush was said to be done on an empty stomach, I tried it anyways because the worst that would happen to me was that it wouldn’t help on my not so empty stomach. Low and behold, nothing happened. I ended up tired from chugging too much water way too fast and I went to sleep once I got home. For some reason, I had trouble falling asleep. But at least I successfully completed another successful day on the cleanse!

10 Day Smoothie Cleanse: Day 3

Wednesday, June 12th, 2019

Today, I did not have much to do except my tuberculosis test and taking my cousin’s 7 year old to swimming in the evening. Off days are the worst days on the cleanse because there is so much free time to snack and think about food. Overall, I felt more awake than usual. Mental brain fog has not been much of a problem, which is NEW for me. To be honest, I’ve been backed up the last few days but my colon gave me a pleasant surprise this morning. I think my digestive system is pretty tough because I’ve heard that this cleanse can make you go, but I’ve found the opposite for me.

Besides that, I ate pretty well today! I had my breakfast serving around 10:30am. Got home around 11ish after a Safeway run – I bought some carrots, celery hearts, low-sodium tuna, more roasted unsalted peanuts, and cucumbers!! Super healthy! Snacked on the peanuts. Drank my lunch smoothie serving. Had a boiled egg. Took my 7 year old niece of swim practice. Lied out in the sun. Came back and had some cucumbers, peanuts, tuna mixed with boiled egg, chopped cucumber, chopped celery, and chopped red bell pepper. Then had my supper smoothie serving around 8pm. I got home to find my parents eating dinner… Goat Curry from an Indian Restaurant, leftover fried chicken, and Cambodian food. My house was filled with the aroma of curry. I wanted to try it soooo badly, but I couldn’t cheat on my diet… not while I’m supposed to be accountable for my cousin and while my cousin is supposed to be accountable for me. If I told her I cheated on our cleanse, it would feel almost as devastating to tell my significant other I cheated on him (lol jk thats on another level of cheating, but still). Then how would I feel about myself? I’d feel like the most terrible person on the planet. Nope. Not today. And there’s no way I could cheat and not tell. I can’t live with that heavy burden of a secret in my chest.

On a side note, my boyfriend was not too supportive of this cleanse in the weight-loss aspect (because as fitness professionals, we know that temporary cleanses and diets do not give long-lasting results)… but he also tries to support everything that I do. —

To clarify again, this cleanse is not for weight-loss for me. It is a great way to test my willpower and see how far I can go with my goals. Weight-loss and detoxifying are merely the side effects for the main purpose. Moreover, the more that I do this cleanse, the more I can see it as an intervention for weight-loss. I never knew how to diet before. I would tell myself I need to start eating healthier, but then I would forget or didn’t know how. This cleanse lays out for you all of the instructions on a 10-day diet so you don’t have to think about whether a certain food is good or bad (before foods are neither good nor bad, and there are many foods that are both good and bad for you). You just make the smoothies in the instructions given and the snacks allowed within the cleanse! So once you have your diet figured out for the day, all you need to do is GET through the day eating just that. For me, that’s no problem. However, I was so unable to diet before because I didn’t have enough drive to lose weight. I’m already naturally slender, and after fixing a bad relationship with food, I never wanted to go back to the way I was before. I figured I’d rather be kind of “chubby” than to harm my body over trying to be super lean and fit. So this diet works out for me because I redirected my goals to work on willpower than to lose weight… because that’s just something I care about more.

— Anyways, tonight my boyfriend told me that he was proud of me for coming so far in the cleanse and that my willpower has gotten better. That made me feel so good about what I’m doing. Day 3 was another success. We have just 7 more to go! Almost half way there! I’m so proud of us!

Xoxo,

Michelle

10 Day Smoothie Cleanse: Day 2

Tuesday, June 11th, 2019

This morning, I woke up tired (what’s new?). On the way to work, I made a detour to my cousin’s house as she had left me my breakfast and lunch smoothie servings before she left for work (thank god for her). This particular smoothie was called Apple Strawberry. It consisted of:

  • Spinach
  • Water
  • 1 Apple
  • 1 Cup Frozen Mangos
  • 1 Cup Frozen Strawberries
  • 1 Handful Grapes
  • 2 Tbsp Ground Flaxseed

The smoothie color was a dark swampy green color, but it definitely tasted a lot better than it looked.  Since this diet does not allow caffeine, I filled my Starbucks stainless steel cup from the water dispenser at work several times remembering that the Smoothie Cleanse book emphasized the importance of drinking enough water. At work, my energy levels seemed to oscillate from being totally functional to my vision going in and out. Overall, I was okay enough to finish my 7.5 hour shift.

During lunch, I visited my cousin again. She made me 2 steamed egg whites, we munched on roasted unsalted peanuts from Safeway, and I had two slices of red bell pepper rings. Let me tell you, when you are on a very restricted diet, any food that you are ALLOWED to eat tastes SOOO much better than you’ve ever tasted it before. After work, I visited her again to take her 7 year old to swim practice after school. However, there was a challenge. Her children’s after-school snack consisted of grilled cheese and quesadilla. It looked so appetizing, but my desire to complete this cleanse successfully trumped my desire of carbs and cheese (my favs). I salivated at the sight of the foods and simply focused my attention back to my own snacks. After swim practice, we came back home. I found a hardboiled egg, ate A LOT more roasted unsalted peanuts (probably more than I should have), some sliced cucumbers, and ate more egg whites. I probably snacked more than I should have, but I really don’t like to feel starved. Plus, these foods are mighty healthy. Toward 7 o’ clock, we drank our supper smoothie and declared ourselves pretty satisfied. I looked up more snacks allowed by the cleanse, and there were several snacks that someone blog-posted. They looked super delicious and I honestly cannot wait to try them out with my cousin. Although I ate my last meal around 8-9pm around and slept around 12, I did not experience any cravings or dissatisfaction which I usually do late at night. Of course, I see food everywhere and I constantly think about all the things I am going to eat after this diet/cleanse, but my cravings have definitely decreased and my susceptibility to bad foods has diminished. I used to have no self control when it came to food, but I want to complete this cleanse/challenge so bad, it really trumps how much I thought I couldn’t give up junk food.

One thing I noticed, however, is that I got upset about something small with my boyfriend again… and did not hesitate about talking about it like I normally do. I can’t tell if it’s just me being cranky and overreactive about certain things, and this diet isn’t allowing me to fully regulate my emotions before I rationally talk about them..? Or if it was a situation that I rightfully was annoyed at. Either way, we discussed it like we always discuss certain issues and everything was okay again! So thank goodness this diet hasn’t completely turned me into a monster!!

  • Energy levels: 6.5/10
  • Skin: acne scarring, dull, gray, tired-looking, body acne, but my boyfriend told me my skin looks better
  • Motivation: 100%
  • Weight: N/A
  • Appetite: 5/10

I didn’t record any physical measurements this night. All measurements will be recorded again on day 5 and on the last day of the cleanse! Also, I am posting this a day later because I didn’t have my laptop with me yesterday!

Xoxo,

Michelle

10 Day Smoothie Cleanse: Day 1

Monday, June 10th, 2019

This morning, my cousin and I began the 10-Day Green Smoothie Cleanse! These smoothies consist of greens and lots of fruits. These smoothies will serve for all three meals of the day for ten consecutive days. The only snacks allowed are: hard-boiled eggs, unsalted nuts, celery, carrots, and cucumbers. Before I introduce my experience on the first day of the cleanse, I wanted to assess my lifestyle pre-cleanse. The weekend right before we began our cleanse, we spent our time at the beach! This meant eating out for 3 and a half days straight and chillin on the beach. During these three days, we ate (and mostly finished) 4 different types of chips, pancakes, pizza, french fries, pasta, funnel cake, frozen yogurt, ice cream, etc. You name it, we probably ate it! On top of that, we shared some adult drinks at the beach as well. I know this sounds pretty bad, but I haven’t been the healthiest in the last year or so, so eating all of these bad foods wasn’t abnormal for me. Moreover, I haven’t been going to the gym or exercising as regularly as I used to. The reason why I decided to take on this challenge/cleanse with my cousin was to show myself that I could be accountable and responsible for my actions. This is an exercise for my willpower. I have never completed anything like this before, but I want to prove to myself that I can do anything I want with pure desire and willpower. It would be one of my greatest self-improvement accomplishments!

Here are some things I took note of pre-cleanse:

  • Energy levels: 4/10
  • Skin: acne scarring, dull, gray, tired-looking, body acne
  • Waist: 27.5in
  • Motivation: 100%
  • Weight: N/A
  • Appetite: 4/10

First day:

This morning, we headed back home, stopping by a diner with my cousins family. My cousin and I sat there while her S.O. and three children ate deliciously looking and smelling food! Her 7 year old kept asking me if I wanted a bite and continued to taunt me, but I was not about to give in just several hours into the first day. However, I downed the cup of ice water that the server gave me. I started drinking my first smoothie at 10am and finished on the 3 hour car ride back home, having a hardboiled egg as a snack. Then, we went grocery shopping to get some ingredients for the next smoothie (kind of a pain), and drank our second meal of the day followed by another hard-boiled egg. I ended up going home with cucumbers and peanuts that my cousin was sooo generous to give me so I wouldn’t starve on the cleanse. I stuck my smoothie in the freezer to run some errands, and ended up hanging out with my boyfriend from 6pm-10:30pm. I was having so much fun that the time passed by very quickly and I actually didn’t think about eating or my appetite so much. I arrived home at 11pm to find that my mom had wrapped up leftovers from dinner (Cambodian soup and fried chicken). My mouth salivated at the smell of homemade Cambodian dinner and I felt bad for the leftovers that might not get to be eaten… However, I merely smelled it, and I headed for my smoothie to find it completely frozen. I stuck it back in the fridge, cut up some cucumbers, pulled out the unsalted roasted peanuts, and happily ate those instead.  I’m not too sure what I’m going to do with this last dinner smoothie that I was too lazy to defrost, but I’m sure that I can substitute it for another meal some time in the future.

At the end of the day, I only had a slight headache, but I feel awfully dehydrated… which makes sense because I know I should have drank more water than I really did. However, I did get upset at a very small thing that happened between my boyfriend and I… and may have overreacted WAY more than I should have. I couldn’t tell if that was me being hangry or if I was right in expressing my emotions. I guess as time goes on, I can look back and assess the situation better. I don’t feel completely out of energy. In fact, I am still very excited about this cleanse/challenge. The most important thing is that I’m very proud of myself and can’t wait to conquer tomorrow.

After the first day

  • Evening weight: 120lb
  • Energy level: 6/10
  • Motivation: 100%
  • Appetite: 6/10
  • Skin: um pretty good actually!

Takeaways:

  • plan when you are going to drink your meals so you can plan when to make it and keep it with you on the go
  • drink lots of water
  • don’t kirk on people when something slightly terrible happens
  • take this thing one day at a time
  • DRINK LOTS OF WATER
  • remember to snack to make it easier on yourself
  • do something fun that will distract you from being hungry/eating if you can!!!

**This cleanse is from the 10 day green smoothie cleanse by JJ Smith. This is just my experience following the book and influenced by my cousin.**

8 Ways to Give This Holiday Season (2017-2018)

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Carmina and I not wearing ugly Christmas sweaters at an Ugly-Christmas-Sweater-themed Christmas Party

The Holiday season is here and I know that some of us… okay all of us… are STRESSED! I know many of my friends have constant emotional/mental breakdowns during this time of year, myself included. Us pre-health students know that PRE-HEALTH ain’t no joke… and even if you aren’t pre-health, college is f***ing hard. And those who have stressful Christmas shopping, dark-weather depression, and all of that shnazz.

It isn’t too much of a secret that I suffer from anxiety and I know that it can be especially difficult to deal with these emotional/mental battles ESPECIALLY during the winter season.. However, I am still a life-optimist when these things happen, and I know some handy tricks that will make you feel better about yourself and about stress season.

We all know that the holiday season is all about GIVING, and since I am such an enormous fan of lists (yes, here is another one!), I am going to provide a list of things that YOU can do to spread positivity and happiness for others this season. I also know for a fact that when I am kind towards other people, I often feel intrinsically happier myself. This is not just about giving to other people, this is also about giving to yourself the happiness that you deserve…

  1. Hold the door for someone. Today, a friend of mine held the door for me every single time even if it would have been easier for him to go through first. It’s a small gesture but it really does go a long way and I am sooooo grateful every single time.
  2. Call/Text a friend and remind them that you care about them. Another friend was genuinely worried when I admitted to him how stressed I was studying for finals. Those things do not go unnoticed to real friends. True friends will be grateful to have someone so caring in their life.
  3. Write a letter to someone you are so truly grateful to have in your life. It takes such little time to do, but it’ll truly make that special friend feel so important
  4. Pay someone a visit who may be a distance away. Carmina lives 200 miles and 3.5-4 hours away at Penn State. It was probably the farthest that I had ever driven but I would not have wanted to spend my weekend any other way than to spend her birthday with her. And I know I made her extremely happy because she thanked me all night for coming when she was drunk (sorry for exposing u carm, but ily)!
  5. Volunteer at/donate to a homeless shelter. THIS is such a rewarding thing to do especially during the holiday season. You don’t really understand homeless life when living in the suburbs of Maryland. However, cities like DC have large homeless communities that heavily rely on donations and volunteers to provide them with warm clothing, food, and places to stay. Here’s a link to one place I’ve been to that really opened my eyes: http://some.org/volunteer/
  6. Spend time with your grandparents. This may seem like a “duh” thing to do, but I know many of us often find ourselves too busy with our face in our books, our dinner time out with our friends, and our leftover spare time spent with our significant other. We must not forget that as we are busy growing up, our grandparents are also growing older. One of my grandmothers passed away over the summer and I find myself wishing I could still spend time with her even if it meant just sitting in front of a TV and watching her favorite Cambodian-dubbed Chinese movies. Quality time cannot be replaced. It is invaluable. Don’t forget to spend it with family members who will appreciate it the most when you spend time. I am very guilty of this.
  7. Pay attention to your gifts, make someone feel like you know them. Every year, my brother has bought me things I loved. High-end make up from Sephora. Sweaters from Under Armour. He even buys me gifts from when he travels abroad. And what do i give him every year? CRAPPY gifts and I am so apologetic for not putting enough thought into one of the most important people in my life. I know he loves me because of the thought he puts into small things like this, but how have I shown him I love him? Not sure… so I can’t wait to get him something he’ll love this year. He’ll be like “FINALLY!!!” BUT YEAH… GET YOUR LOVED ONES SOMETHING THAT SHOWS YOU PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR INTERESTS
  8. Ask someone about something that they talked to you about before. So this is kind of a dip into my deep interest in human socialization and interaction with one another. We often find ourselves SO wrapped up in our own lives that when we CONVERSE with others, we’re so focused on what we’re about to say next. We don’t really listen. We often forget people’s names 30 seconds after they’ve introduced themselves to us, because we’re waiting for them to finish so that we can say our own name (guilty!). Something that makes a huge impression on me is when I tell someone something about my day or my life, they make the effort to revisit that topic in a future conversation. It means that they really listen and actually cared to know more. I guarantee you when you ask someone “How did your exam go?” or “Are you feeling better today?” they will feel so good even if they don’t realize it.

I am a huge believer in karma and the Law of Attraction. I believe that the energy you put out in the world is what you will attract. I believe that being a good person will carry you a long way mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Be good to others for you will eventually find it comes back around. I hope these tips will help you make someone else’s holiday season amazing, and therefore making your own holiday season amazing.

Xoxo,

Michelle

Be a Goal Digger

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A lovely sunset at The Grand Prix in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina

My senior year is beginning and honestly I’m actually excited. Over the summer, I kind of fell into some bad habits.. like taking four-hour naps in the middle of the day, losing interest in exercising, losing touch with some friends, eating lots of junk, not creating art. I stopped. I stumbled into a rotten patch in my life. And sure, you can say that I was productive because I took two summer classes and worked a part time job… but I felt as though I was on autopilot, just trying to get through each and every single day without feeling so lethargic. I hate feeling out of energy. I hate not wanting to go out and have fun. The only motivation I had for doing anything at all this summer was the fear of regret that I didn’t do it. Anyways, my first day of school started yesterday and I honestly am truly thankful that there are semesters/bench marks where you can start anew…. And for this fall, I will begin fresh. I will plan things. I will kickstart my fabulous habits that I had before. I will develop a better mindset. I will listen to motivational speeches everyday. And most importantly, I will love it. I will love each and every day that I am alive. And these posts will keep coming.

To start off my semester, here are some goals I would like to prophesy.

  1. Wake up early even on days that I don’t have to
  2. Continue my exercise regime
  3. Continue to learn about exercise and fall in love with learning again
  4. Have more spontaneity for spontaneity will help you be accustomed to meeting the unknown and the uncertain, and be okay with it
  5. Read
  6. Finish small errands right when you get them
  7. Use a daily planner (I already have 3)
  8. Keep up with to-do lists and GET THEM DONE
  9. Become a complete and daring optimist

Proof, Lists, and Gratitude!

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Dining in at Proof at Gallery Place with Tirone!

January 18th, 2017

Take 6. I’ve begun to write this entry several times in multiple directions, however I can’t really pin down what I really want to talk about. Of course, a lot has happened over these past few months – but mostly personal things.

So I’ll make a list of some of the things I love in the world.

  1. Photographing people in their truly candid and quirky moments. I get this inspiration from that scene in Lilo & Stitch when she goes to the beach and we see all of her polaroid pictures of the messy, unposed everyday, normal people.
  2. Pay-it-forward. I love people who do nice deeds like pay for the person behind them or go out of their way to do something nice for no absolute reason. The other day, this guy parked his car in the middle of ongoing traffic in order to pick something up on the street for a homeless guy in a wheelchair. I’m sure he knew cars behind him were probably confused and annoyed, but it was very heartwarming to see.
  3. Pizza Stop. It’s this pizza parlor near my house on Bel Pre Road. It’s a family-owned parlor, and has bomb ass pizzas, subs, sandwiches, and a lot more items. I want to say it’s kind of a hole in the wall type of restaurant, but I feel like that’s just a personal opinion since my brother still goes out of his way to by Papa John’s. Either way, it’s a blessing in disguise hidden in the corner of a small shopping center!
  4. Ted Talks. Any time I feel down, depressed, or unmotivated, I find myself watching plenty of Ted Talks about self-confidence and vulnerability, just inspirational and motivational speeches that help me remember how nobody’s perfect and there’s always a way to become better… or at least think better about the world around you.
  5. Reading. As much as I hate having reading assignments for school and having to read studies and articles, I actually find myself somewhat intrigued in everything that I read and I definitely learn something new everyday. I’ve learned to think more critically and become more aware about the world around me. Although it is a dread to be somewhat “forced” to read some of these things, it’s more of a blessing in disguise in the case that I am ultimately gaining knowledge. Don’t get me wrong though, I do read a lot on my own time as well and I love it. And for those who don’t read, knowledge truly is power. It also improves my writing by a whole lot!
  6. Having a home with a functional shower and toilet. Okay, I know this one sounds weird, but I take multiple showers and baths daily, especially after I do my number 2. That’s a lot of water. I have an OCD of being clean! I know that I am abusive of having a functional bath or shower, but I am very aware that it is a privilege. It’s a simple thing to be thankful for, but throughout my travels to Cambodia, and other third world countries in Southeast Asia a few years ago, my eyes were open to the types of bathrooms they had… Public restrooms on the side of the country road were ill-maintained and had dirt and mud everywhere. There were no toilet paper in any “stalls”, but they provided buckets in tubs of water next to the toilet with which you were supposed to rinse your genitals with. I had no idea where they filled the water from and it did not look remotely sanitary, so we brought our own toilet paper to the restrooms. The actual toilets were holes in the ground that you would have had to squat over and do your business in… I know there are people there who use these types of restrooms everyday, so having a nice bathroom here in Maryland is definitely something I truly find gratitude in.
  7. Friends. Good friends. Friends who understand that you have a busy schedule and sometimes text back hours later. Friends who make an effort to make plans and see you during holidays and weekends. Friends who always take you back after you get lost in another crowd. Friends whom you can tell anything, and you never smell a hint of judgment coming off of them. Those are the friends I will keep close in my heart forever.

I’m sure I have a lot more but I’m also pretty sure I’ve spent a good 2 hours on this post, so I think I’ll end it here. I create a lot of these lists about things that I am grateful for, and it has honestly helped me see the brighter side of everything and helped me note a lot of silver linings. So for anyone reading this, if you’re ever having a bad day, just take some time to sit down for a good 10 minutes and write down at least 5 things you are grateful for… and really internalize that gratitude. I know it may sound stupid at first, but the more consistent you are with it, the more it’ll positively affect your psychology… And I can vouch for that.

A Downward Spiral

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An irrelevant photo of a bank in Georgetown, DC

As my network expands, I realize that a lot of negative and positive interactions will come with it. Friends will come and go. Your heart will be broken, and people you thought were true to you, instead may cut you off without telling you. And there’s really nothing that you can control. But if you stay true to yourself, if you stay true to your good intentions, better things will come your way and you’ll naturally attract people who were meant to be there for you… and at the end of the day, you’ll know for sure who your real friends are.

So since I love lists so much, here are a few things to remember for when you feel like the world is pummeling you down into a pit, like I’ve been feeling this whole entire week.

  1. True friends will always be there for you no matter what at the end of the day
  2. True friends don’t make assumptions and preconceived ideas of you based on what they heard. Instead, they would make their own based on their interactions with you
  3. People will say things about you that are untrue. It’s life.
  4. If you don’t feel like you have anyone, your family will always love you. Family will be there for you no matter what.
  5. If you’ve done wrong, realize that you’ve done wrong. No more beating yourself up for it. Pick yourself up and learn from that mistake. You, in yourself, will know that you are better.
  6. Don’t chase after people!!
  7. “Don’t waste your time with explanations. People only hear what they want to hear.” – Paul Coelho
  8. Be true to yourself and don’t force a friendship or relationship. Friendship is a two way street.
  9. Don’t pay attention to the negatives of what people say. It may hurt. But don’t counter that with more negativity. Instead, encapsulate yourself with positive people who make your life happier.
  10. Don’t take things so personally. Life is short. And people will be people.
  11. People have opinions. Opinions are natural.
  12. Not 100% of people will like you. It’s not your fault. It would be unreal if they did.
  13. Keep your head up. It’s not the end of the world. Out of 20 people who hate you, there are 80 more who love you.

Living The Journey

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Thank you to my dear friend, Shawn, for taking me out to the city and being my muse for the night. 10.16.16

Moving on.

Moving on hasn’t always been easy for me, but it is a skill essential to have if you’re going to mature. I am currently maturing into the woman I desire to become – strong, independent, detached, and always moving on… yet I don’t think that there will be an end to maturity. There is no end result of being a person. There is no “finally I’m here”.

Life is ever-changing and even when you’re dead, it still doesn’t end there. There was a quote in this incredible book (called Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff… And It’s All Small Stuff… 10/10 recommend) that enlightened me to the fact that even when we’re dead, we will all still have unfinished business. And you know who’s going to finish that business? Other people! It says that there is no destination… there is only a journey. So here’s to the folks who don’t know where you’re going or where you’ll end up, to the folks who are so incredibly terrified of what path they want or need to take, and are confused in figuring out just how they’re going to get there (like I have been for these past few years): You are on a road to somewhere significant, so stop stressing out so much because no matter where life takes you, life will take you… and there is no right or wrong. There is only an acceptance or a rejection. But regardless, this path that you are on is the path you are meant to be on. And the only advice that I will give to absolutely anybody is to not think so much about the circumstances you are in, but to think about how you react to the circumstances you are put in. Life is amazing; the difference between a good and a bad one is your perspective of it.

So take it from me… feel the fear and negativity, and embrace it for it is a natural part of life… Then move on and keep enjoying the ride. You deserve to be happy.